9 Quarter Life Crisis Books Written By Women

There is an array of female authors turning up the male-dominated literary scene! Even more so, we can relate to these women writers who tell us that everything will be just fine. Our twenties and thirties can be a time of unnerving confusion and frankly, inner turmoil, and there’s no better feeling than knowing you are not alone. These books tackle quarter-life crisis topics from the perspective of women authors. Spruce up your reading list with these empowering female authors.

Such a Fun Age by Kiley Reid

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This debut novel by Kiley Reid is so perfectly plot-pointed and executed it reads more like a seasoned novelist’s work. It follows the main character, Emira, a black babysitter working for an affluent white family. It ranges wildly between themes of existentialism and general unhappiness and daily anxieties, to issues about a quarter-life crisis, racism, and race-related explorations. It often offers funny, sometimes depressing musings on motherhood, friendship, money woes, and love, through a coming-of-age lens. Reid has refreshed the trope of a quarter-life crisis, and reminds us all that sometimes not knowing what to do in life is scary, but that’s okay. 

Notes to Self by Emilie Pine 

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This powerful half memoir half collection of essays has struck a chord with people of all ages, and all backgrounds. Imbued with eye-watering honesty, Pine weaves her life story through 6 different essays that encompass issues about family struggles, addiction, consent, inequality, infertility, and miscarriage. Now a successful professor at Trinity University in Dublin, Pines wild tales of her youth, her complicated upbringing, and the general uneasiness of being raised in conservative Ireland in the 80s and 90s ring loudly through each page. Reading this book reminds us that life is messy and slapdash, vast and sobering, but also filled exponentially with elevated joy. Mirrored by the backdrop of the ever-evolving Ireland, Pine reminds us that there is always, always, time to change. 

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity “examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home”.

A top review of the book reads:

“Anyone who desires or is in a long-term relationship should read this. This book had me hooked, I whizzed through it in about 2 days. Hugely enlightening and puts words to something I’ve always noticed but could never quite put my finger on. The gist is that love demands closeness, but erotic desire needs space to thrive. For modern American couples, who often have their lives so intertwined, this can lead to problems. Perel explores this seeming contradiction and sheds light on how modern couples can become aware of this and mediate it. This book is packed with wisdom. Enlightening read!”

Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman 

6 Books By Female Authors That Are Perfect For Quarter Life Crisis

Honeyman’s peculiarly loveable protagonist Eleanor reminds us that you don’t have to be perfect to be loved and that sometimes it’s joyful to be free of the social restrictions we’ve placed upon ourselves. Dealing with pressing themes of loneliness and inner pain, following this unconventional heroine’s journey is hilarious, cringe-worthy, and tear-jerking all in one. No matter what point of your life you’re at when you come across this nuanced read, you will find that you too have a little Eleanor Oliphant inside, and you are certainly not alone.


Beautiful World Where Are You? by Sally Rooney

A literary masterpiece that clearly shows how the characters navigate the dynamics of friendships, finding one’s place in the world, and trying to make sense of one’s life.

A top review of the book reads:

Really good work. Love the style. I liked the literary references and the reflections on the (crisis of the) novel, modernity, and capitalism, and how the system is creeping into our minds. I think this novel is very “comfortable” to read: it reflects, feeds, AND also fulfills our longing for the good old beautiful world, as we have never known it, in the middle of our collective value crisis.”

Everything I Know About Love by Dolly Alderton 

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If there’s anyone who can perfectly embody the millennial spirit of simultaneous ambition and crisis, it’s Dolly Alderton. Her memoir chronicles life from the days of MSNing boys right up to her thirtieth birthday, which she, like so many, faced with raging trepidation. This hilarious and relatable read portrays the familiar bump-and-roll rhythm of life and reminds us that there’s nothing wrong with simply being and going with the flow. We’re all susceptible to the same trials and tribulations as Alderton, from regrettable nights out to overspending and overeating. This rickety ride is sure to make you cringe, laugh, and empathize contemporaneously. 

Normal People by Sally Rooney 

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The millennial author Sally Rooney captures contemporary existentialism like no other. After all, isn’t existentialism one of the defining characteristics of our twenties? Normal People digest topics of class, money, inequality, and conservatism while inherently questioning what it is to simply be normal. Does normality exist, and if so, why do so many strive for it? Watching the ever-changing relationship of Marianne and Connell, we learn that what is normal is to be in actuality confused, to feel lost and disconnected and that we need only seek happiness in whichever form it comes. 

Queenie by Candice Carty-Williams

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Who better to guide us through a quarter-life crisis than Carty-William’s vibrant millennial protagonist, Queenie? In reality, reading this revolutionary flick fills us with a lot of head-shaking and disappointment at her unhealthy antics rather than pride or aspiration, and that’s the point. Nobody is perfect, especially not Queenie. Carty-William’s documentation of gentrification, mental deterioration, and sexual politics is not solely provocative, but a vital shake-up of the narrative to create a welcoming platform of education and unity. We are all just trying to get through with our bit of baggage, and Queenie knows there is simply no right way to do that, but humor, honesty, and understanding are sure to get you far. 

Promising Young Women by Caroline O’Donoghue

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This book, which quietly circles the #MeToo movement, was surprisingly published at the same time as the Harvey Weinstein call-out but written long before it. It shows us that the blurring of workplace relationships has been a known archetype for a very, very long time. Following the protagonist’s life working in the marketing world of London after a break up with a long-term boyfriend, O’Donoghue probes issues about relationships in our twenties, toxicity, and misogyny in the workplace. It exposes the unspoken mental and physical deterioration faced by women due to both workplace and emotional, and relational labor, and also the yo-yo-ing of a quarter-life crisis. Dark, relatable, and borderline supernatural, this story urges us to be wary of the power dynamics that can get twisted at this vulnerable decade in both personal life and the workplace. 


Aoife Smith

I would describe myself as a teacher, writer, and reader. I teach English in Madrid, and I have a degree in English Literature and Psychology. I'm currently studying journalism and I write in my spare time about issues stemming from a quarter-life crisis, being on a budget, social observations, the future, food, and literature. You can find me at onebrokegal.com

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