Why Journaling is the Unsung Hero of Self-Care

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I recently started using journaling for self-care, as a way to manage negative emotions. When I feel sad, lonely, upset, or confused, I pick up my notebook and write it all down. While I don’t always reach a new state of understanding, I always notice an improved mood and greater sense of calm when I finish.

When I think of journaling, I sometimes picture a six-year-old girl with a pink unicorn diary. I think a lot of us shrink from the practice because it seems somehow childish or silly. If we can get past that prejudice, we’re often still faced with the idea that we can’t keep a journal because we aren’t writers (or, if we are writers, because the writing won’t be good enough). Our words won’t make any sense, and we won’t be able to express ourselves eloquently. Of course, the inherent advantage of journaling is its privacy—no one will ever read your words. You don’t even have to read them if you don’t want to.

writing down my emotions has become the single most effective way I handle negative feelings and achieve clarity

Writing down my thoughts creates a place for them outside of my brain so that I no longer need to hold onto them. It’s like when you’re carrying bags of heavy groceries and finally set them down on the kitchen counter. You put them away in the places they belong, and then you are free of their physical weight and the cognitive load of remembering that you’re out of milk. In the same way, I can put distressing thoughts away in my journal where they belong, and afterwards feel free of their emotional weight.

As cheesy as it may sound, writing down my emotions has become the single most effective way I handle negative feelings and achieve clarity. While different tactics work for everyone, I have found a few key ways to maximize the benefits of journaling.

Only write in your journal when you feel like it

journaling for self-care

Before I started journaling, I had a vague idea that a journal was some sort of commitment to keep, a new item to add to my to-do list. I imagined feeling guilty if I let a day or two go by without writing.

To avoid this, I only write in my journal when I am feeling unsettled. Sometimes, if something positive has happened that I want to remember, I’ll write that down too. But mostly, I only write when I am in need of comfort. That can be every day or once a month. I don’t date my entries, so there’s no invitation for self-judgment.

Write without editing

journaling for self-care

When I’m writing for a reader, I tend to stop myself, reread, and rework every few sentences. When I’m journaling, I am careful to eschew this habit. I write as I think, without worrying about punctuation, diction, or run-on sentences. The goal of a journal, for me, is not the writing itself, but the organized thinking behind it. It doesn’t have to be correct, it doesn’t have to make sense, and it can be riddled with clichés.

Furthermore, I try not to censor my feelings. If I am feeling something selfish, unkind, or judgmental, I allow myself to write down those unacceptable thoughts. Feelings I would hesitate to share with even my closest friends can be admitted to a journal.

Write with a pen and paper

journaling for self-care

Because this is a self-care tactic, it’s important to keep all of the rules and requirements flexible. Sometimes I don’t have my physical journal or a notebook with me, and I need to write in a Word document instead. But, when possible, I find that there is something particularly therapeutic about writing with a favorite, smooth pen in a small, canvas-bound book of lined paper.

For me, writing with a pen and paper tends to feel more personal and private than typing does. I also write much more slowly than I type, so I am forced to slow down my thoughts, which has a calming effect.

The next time you notice an unsettled emotional landscape, I invite you to pick up a pen and paper and write uninhibited for a few minutes. You’ll either waste a few minutes and a few sheets of paper, or you’ll discover an incredibly useful tool for self-care, as I have.

 

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Shaune Marx

Shaune is a writer and English teacher currently living in Madrid, Spain. She is a firm believer in the Oxford comma and an enthusiastic supporter of paperbacks over PDFs. She studied Professional and Creative Writing at Carnegie Mellon University, and spends her spare time traveling, practicing yoga, and petting strangers' dogs.