Welcome to the land of uncertainties called the early to late-twenties. If you’re in your twenties, you’re probably going through or about to start going through a Quarter-life Crisis.
I see the early 20’s as that period when you’re old enough to realize your parents were right all along but young enough to still choose to not believe them. You are old enough to realize the reality of being an adult but young enough to attempt to ignore this reality. You can’t.
The early to late twenties always comes with so many changes and need for growth. You develop new found identities and have so many experiences that redefine who you are. These growths and changes sometimes get you off guard or leave you scared and confused.
Like many of my friends in their 20s, I’ve found myself constantly trying to make tough decisions about my life, lifestyle, dreams, and goals. Some of these decisions are on serious issues like my career and some on not so serious issues. They are however all very important to my growth as each decision I make, each path I choose, further lends into the definition of who I am. Of who I am becoming.
I am curating my Identity. I am the artist and I am the art. I am my biggest project.
Should I go back to school? Do I work a 9-5 job or start my own business? Should I quit my job? Do I choose meaning over pay when looking for a job? How can I follow my dreams? What am I passionate about? What are my political views? Should I eat out or cook? Should I have roommates or live alone? Who are the people I surround myself with?Should I be worried about getting married? Do I opt for a 401K or not? What is a 401k? What is my credit score? How much time should I spend with friends? How much should I spend on clothes? How often should I travel? Etc etc etc
Though some of these questions could pass as great philosophical questions that can never be answered, some seem pretty straight forward or even trivial yet they keep me and many others up at night. Perhaps because being in your twenties is a crucial stage in life and any decision you make could set you on a completely different course. It’s quite frightening and overwhelming.
I’m starting quarter-life crisis section on Clever-ish Magazine in order to create a space to discuss and explore these questions and issues. Almost everyone I know is going through some sort of identity crisis, self-reinvention, career indecisiveness, you name it. A quarter-life crisis might not be as commonly talked about as the mid-life crisis but it’s a big deal for those of us going through it. Especially in our generation. This generation is growing up in a time of rapid and dynamic changes in the economy and society. Working and living are not as conventional as it used to be and it’s complicated navigating it.
I can’t give you answers, I’m as lost as the next person and maybe even more. But my hope is that in writing about it and creating a platform to discuss it, I can provide some sort of relief or direction to the next person and myself. Because one of the first steps to solving a problem is naming it and acknowledging its existence.
Hi, I’m Jiji and I’m going through a Quarter-life crisis.